Success is the accomplishment of a worthy aim or purpose.
Success can mean almost anything, the “Worthy” part of the definition is what makes all the difference. It covers the beginner runner to the Olympic athlete. Even though there is a huge gap between them both, either can be successful in their endeavors because they are starting from different places.
There are many ways people measure success. Success in wealth is probably the most commonly thought of and recognized, however, there are many other types of success a few other examples may be the success in health, work and family, and friendships. Robin Sharma has selected 8 forms of success that is a great place to start when defining what success means to you.
So how do you pick the aim that is going to help you get the success you want?
When choosing a new aim, we are nearly always having to learn another new lesson or skill to allow us to achieve our desired goal. The difference between where we are now and where we want to be will dictate the size of the challenge ahead of us. Picking the correct focus area will substantially cut down the amount of time it takes for you to be successful. Planning your next step is a great use of your time and done correctly will substantially improve your success rate.
It’s Too Easy
Although the comfort zone is cozy and convenient there are also so dangerous traps that can derail your progress towards your goals. People who stick in the comfort zone will be completing tasks they have completed many times before, because of this the tasks completed are too easy and you become bored. The other issue is that while you are chilling in your comfort zone all the good stuff is happening somewhere else and you’re missing out!
Another issue is that it is also really easy to bite off more than you can chew. Being super keen and motivated is good, but not if it leads to you setting yourself aims that are unrealistic and will likely result in you failing. These early fails could mean you give up on a really important goal, which was in fact within your reach had you targeted yourself correctly.
Sweet Spot of Success
Support your success by finding your sweet spot, it needs to be a challenge but not so difficult you cannot achieve your aims. If you can get this right this is the quickest way to achieve your goals and become successful.
All things being equal you are only 25% likely to get in the Learning Zone. What is more likely though is that you will be one of the 75% that are stuck in one of the other zones which will lead to frustration and failure. Things are not split equally though, the point is you are far more likely to be outside the learning zone than in it. The learning zone is the quickest way to increase your skill level and knowledge and move you closer towards your end goals.
So how do you get into the Learning Zone?
You need to make sure that you select smaller stretch goals that are both achievable goals, but also challenging. Spending the time selecting the correct aims and goals and then reflecting on if these were actually correct is the handyman equivalent of “measure twice and cut once” saving .a lot of time and often money too.
When It Goes Wrong
It’s not your fault, it happens all the time.
You know what you want and you finally decide now is the time and you’re going to get it. You’re super motivated, then the unthinkable happens. You just failed or you’re about to fail.
Even though you gave it your best it wasn’t enough. Now what?
This is a sign, you put yourself in the “panic zone” the world is telling you that if you want to get to the next step on the staircase of success have reached too far and you need to pick a smaller task. The problem is, we don’t always see it like this. You let a one-off failure became the reason you ultimately fail to achieve your aim, which is really sad ☹
These fails should be seen as a sign you need to set an easier “next step” to continue your progress towards your goal.
A fail does not make you a failure.
Dangers of Failure
When you accept a failure you stop searching for a method to overcome the challenge. You stop even trying to look for a way to improve, it may be conscious but it has the same results as giving up.
The image below shows the difference in brain activity between someone searching for a way to improve and another that has accepted the failure. One of the brains is on fire with activity the other is brain dead by comparison!
We are capable of improving in anything and quickly too but, to progress quickly you need to take the right size steps at the right time. Great planning makes a difference but, you will still end up in the panic zone at some point. Your ability to know when you’re in the panic zone will greatly help you in quickly recovering from the fails that will likely result of this. Correctly diagnosing the failure and choosing a better suited next step that is challenging but also realistic is the quickest way to success.
No matter what your goals are in life, setting realistic goals and expecting failures as a part of the journey will stand you in good stead and hugely increase the likelihood of you achieving what you want.
In any undertaking, it is easy to visualize the end result but if you lose sight of each of the small goals you have already accomplished along the way you may just end up quitting before the biggest payday of your life!
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